Can we all take a moment to agree that saying “I am triggered” as a joke is actually not something that is funny?
We don’t do this with physical illness and if you do well…. that’s not funny either.
Because this is something I am intimately familiar with, let me explain what it’s like as someone who can be triggered; as well as a caregiver of someone of the like.
You are going about your day. Maybe you are in Anthropologie, your favorite store. Or maybe you’re in the library.
A person walks past and you catch a whiff of their cologne that most love.
You break out into a cold sweat. Tunnel vision sets in and the exits disappear. You are transported back to “that place” where the worst thing happened to you. Your heart is racing and you can’t breathe.
Now you’re making a self-perceived spectacle of yourself in one of your favorite stores or places.
If you are lucky you have someone with you who can remind you to breathe. They see what is happening. There’s the five-finger trick where you have something associated with each finger that grounds you. You use your hands to feel the floor, the chair, the person you are with and you are slowly transported out of your worst nightmare and back to current reality.
But you still feel like shit and the public embarrassment isn’t even part of that. A surge of adrenaline does incredible and also devastating things to your entire body. An occurrence like this can render one worthless for the rest of the day.
But what happens when you are alone, reading a book at home that everyone has raved about – or even worse, a public place?
The same thing.
There are movies and TV shows my family and I avoid because they have content warnings. We know the triggers and take the warnings seriously. Some rated R movies are fine while others are not because the details for the rating are listed below the “R”.
Ninth House is a wildly popular book that is shown all over Instagram. I saw it in countless top lists of 2019 – which is fine – but I never saw a single mention of a warning about the content that quite frankly, would have upset people who don’t even have PTSD. Instagram is huge so it is always possible I missed a mention of this but it’s not just this book.
I don’t know why books don’t carry warnings. It would take up so little space to include: child r@pe, extreme hazing, violence against women including drugging and assault… you get the point. And all of these and a few more should have been included in a blurb for Ninth House. Not to mention, the author of Ninth House is a popular young adult author. She has made it clear that this book does not fit that genre but I have seen this very book in the young adult section at multiple bookstores.
Back to ratings: it’s not that difficult. But that may mean that a group of people don’t buy a particular book. I would hope the publishing industry isn’t as calculating as this seems but one has to wonder when all other forms of media carry warnings.
With a warning, some may skip the book entirely. However, I would argue that a simple trigger warning would allow a reader to chose to buy the book and then come back to it when they are in a good mental place. Everyone wins – the reader is respected and the author is read.
The last thing I will mention is context. Because as a writer that is something to be considered. Does the graphic description do something to advance the plot? Is it integral to the character and their personality? Is it being used as a message to be shared? I will still argue that graphic content may not be necessary – we leave readers to their own imaginations all the time with far more innocent plot lines.
I don’t know what the answer is and I don’t know how this changes unless more readers speak up. But until then, my reviews will include trigger warnings. Because I know from personal experience that a praised book can take me to a dark place fast and that is certainly not the point of reading and I never want to be responsible for transporting a fellow book lover back to their worst moment.
The world is scary enough already.
I’m so glad you featured this. I always include Content Warnings in my reviews for just this reason. I would hate for someone to pick up a book I enjoyed and have a terrible experience because of content that I didn’t mention. Thank you for sharing this.
Myra J Scrabeck
I appreciate your thoughtfulness in providing a content warning. 💗
Dedra @ A Book Wanderer
Thank you for sharing this! As a new blogger, I’m trying to be aware of content warnings but it’s a whole new territory for me. This is a great reminder to be more vigilant. <3
I love this post so much, and thank you so much for sharing. I think that trigger warnings are so important, and I appreciate your willingness to share your experience.